Sep 15

Sep 15 The DKC

Over the course of our lives, we gain (earn?) membership to various experiential clubs: the epilepsy club, for example. We don’t really want to be members, but that’s not taken into consideration at initiation. The shittiest club I’ve gained exclusive access to in my life is The Dead Kids Club. Now, you may think that the DKC sounds abrasive and dark, that it makes non-members a little uncomfortable which, if I’m honest, is kind of funny and kind of the point. Because sometimes we need a little dark humor to keep on, keeping on.

Sep 8

Sep 8 What comes next

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With Labor Day passed and school started, 96-degree temps aside, I do believe that fall is upon us. The end of this year looms large for our family as we stare down more change than our family has seen since, well, Adelaide died, COVID shut down the world and we left Chicago for New Jersey. Major life changes seem to hit our family every 3-5 years, so I guess we were due - at least this one doesn’t require a cross-country move.

Aug 25

Aug 25 Lost in The Hads, pt 2

Kelly Cervantes

With still two weeks until the start of school, the kids and I headed to my parent’s house in North Carolina this week for some extended beach and pool time. Even though I didn’t grow up in this house, (my parents retired here ten years ago) it’s hard not to feel reminiscent. Which got me thinking about a blog post I wrote in July 2021, less than two years after Adelaide’s passing: Lost in the Hads.

Aug 18

Aug 18 Legally loved

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After years of meetings, calls, paperwork, home studies, filings, and court appearances, Strawbaby is officially, legally, and ceremoniously a part of our family in every way that she has been since the day we met. Because our court date had been postponed numerous times for a variety of reasons, it wasn’t until a couple of days before our ultimate date that the magnitude of what was about to happen fully hit me.

Aug 11

Aug 11 On the importance of sleepovers or Why you should parent based on your kid's needs

Kelly Cervantes

I’ve dedicated more than one blog to extolling the virtues of siblings of kids with disabilities: empathy in spades, adaptability, and kindness for all, to name a few. This weekend, when dropping Jackson off for camp, I discovered another to add to the list. Now, at the time Jackson was developing this particular superpower, I was fairly certain I was damaging him for life. Turns out that could not be further from the truth.

Aug 4

Aug 4 Amazing Grace

Kelly Cervantes

Grace is my middle name, literally. While I’ve owned and loved the name, I’ve never truly felt like I embodied the word. “Simple elegance or refinement of movement”? Not here! This week I dive into my relationship with my middle name, which I share with Adelaide, dig through my memories of my Mimi for whom I was named after, and redefine what grace means to me.

Jul 28

Jul 28 A full life

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What constitutes a full life and who is in charge of determining what qualifies? These were just a few of the questions I was left pondering after attending Stephen Jenkinson and Gregory Hoskins, "Nights of Grief and Mystery". I had no idea what to expect walking in and was forever changed walking out.

Jul 21

Jul 21 Permission

Kelly Cervantes

The last few months I’ve been on a self-discovery kick. Also known as, my mental health took a nosedive and I’ve been seeking some sort of balance ever since. I still suck at meditating, but I am trying to be more mindful and purposefully set aside time to learn and just be with myself which is what led me to an episode of Glennon Doyle’s podcast, “We Can Do Hard Things” about enneagrams with Suzanne Stabile and it has entirely altered the way I talk to and think about myself.

Jul 14

Jul 14 The "F" word

Kelly Cervantes

If we’re lucky, we all have at least one teacher that makes a lasting positive impact. A teacher that we don’t just connect with but that sees us for who we are, accepts us and encourages us. For me, that educator was Mr. Terry Peterson. He was our high school speech and drama coach (forensics anyone?) and he also directed the musical. He listened to and was privy to our teen drama but never intervened. He coached and supported us, cheered us on and offered life advice - but only when it was requested. And this week he is sharing some of that insight and advice with all of you.

Jul 7

Jul 7 Kids are resilient

Kelly Cervantes

I don’t know how many times people have reminded me of this over the last few years. Both in relation to Jackson having a sick and dying sister and as it pertains to Strawbaby and her tumultuous first few years of life. Until recently, I just sort of accepted this statement as fact. On the surface it appears to be true – but lately, that statement hasn’t sat as well with me and this past weekend I finally figured out why.

Jun 30

Jun 30 Well, this is awkward (but shouldn't be)

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With just a little more than four months until Normal Broken hits book shelves and mailboxes, marketing, aka the hustle, is revving up and my self-doubt and anxiety are tagging along for the ride. Self-promotion is sooo awkward, but why? Why does it feel so weird to tell people that I wrote a book, that I hope they buy it and to please tell others about it. My emotional over-analyzation has broken it down to two main factors:

Jun 23

Jun 23 Long live little league

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It is officially summer which means little league summer travel season is in full swing. Not to be confused with spring rec ball or fall ball – summer baseball is a special kind of all consuming.

Baseball has been a common denominator throughout my life. Which is an interesting thing for someone who has never been described as athletic to say. But it’s true! And I’m forever grateful to my dad for kickstarting this love of baseball which I appreciate now more than ever.